The A, B, Cs of co-parenting this new school year.

On August 29, 2022, everyone in our household was up and running early before the sun made its way into the day.   It was the first day of kindergarten for our daughter.  There were so many emotions that went through my mind that day. 

I felt happy.  Going back to school meant structured time in a learning environment for Olivia and more free time for me (Hallelujah)! 

I felt satisfied.  School days meant that my son would be guaranteed to get some daily fresh air and exercise that he needs. 

I felt anxious.  The reality is that when you send your kids to school you are helpless in protecting them from mentally imbalanced individuals who have access to guns.

I felt hopeful.  The education my children will receive will be the foundation on which their academic career will stand. 

I felt blessed.  I have an intelligent, beautiful, and loving daughter that knows her worth and value, and a son who is strong and independent.  

My husband and I walked our daughter into her kindergarten classroom and then she was off to a whole new world.  That is a moment that I will cherish and remember.  However, I recognize that every child will not have that memory.  I know for a fact that some parents are not afforded the opportunity to even know what school their child attends.  Some parents don’t list the name of the other parent on school registration forms out of spite.  Some parents don’t share open house information to alienate the other parent from their child’s life.  For those parents who allow their emotions to control their decisions—STOP!  

Every parent should have the opportunity to meet and build a rapport with their child’s teacher.  Every child should have memories of their mother or father bringing treats to their classroom.  Your child’s teacher should know that you exist.  Every parent should be emotionally available to provide support, direction, and encouragement to the child they brought into the world.  When your daughter has her first crush, both parents should be around to educate her about how to deal with boys.  Be a member of your child’s social support network system.  

The status of your sexual relationship with your child’s other parent should not change your role in your child’s life.

The status of your child support payments should not change your role in your child’s life.

Your marital status or the new baby in your life should not change your role in your child’s life.

As we enter into a new school year, bring your “A” game to your child’s school.  “B” present and be counted in your child’s community. And “C” to it that your presence in your child’s life makes a difference in their present and future.